You have the natural ability to sense the volatility of unverbalised emotion. If the emotion you perceive is unpredictable or potentially unmanageable you will simply get as far away from the situation as possible. If however you feel that you can successfully negotiate the emotion, you will then find the best way to diffuse the emotion by balancing this person's emotion with your own to restore peace.

You desperately seek an environment in which people's emotions are stable and safe. You understand that when this takes place, people connect optimally and conflict does not diminish the power of the collective.

The particular brilliance of the Harmony theme is its natural practicality and preference for emotional balance. By reducing friction, you can create the conditions for excellent collaboration, particularly between two or three people (your speciality). By having their emotion centered, people are enabled to hear different points of view and find a common course of action. With the right 'personal state' and method, you can avert many contentious interactions before they start and quickly help others find a resolution.

To live and work in constructive, emotionally safe environments;

to quietly get on with what needs to be done without much fuss and bother;

periodic time in quiet spaces in which I can manage my own flow and emotions.

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Can maturely manage their emotions;

are respectful, considerate, gentle and take time to listen and understand;

are aware of the emotional impact they have on others.

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Forcing my opinion on anyone, being the center of attention, enjoying noise or anything disruptive or aggressive.

I cannot balance the emotions around me;

people are discordant- their emotions are all over the place;

people intentionally use emotion to bully others;

people are aggressive and angry towards me for any reason;

I do not have time to restore my own flow and balance.

Being timid, introverted or lacking backbone.

How you talk to me is everything - keep any negative emotion in check.

Manage me at a one-to-one level rather than in a group;

Make time to hear my concerns, I will not verbalise them if I do not feel emotionally safe.

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You want peace and you try to bring people together in a place of consensus.

You can see points that people have in common, even when they are in conflict.

You seek to help individuals, families, and organizations work together.

Some people may criticize you, saying you lack courage.

Occasionally, even you may see your desire for harmony as an avoidance of conflict.

Help people find common ground by managing emotion as early on in the conversation as possible. Then establish the rules for engagement so that any subsequent emotion can be successfully managed.

When working with others, stress the value of reaching consensus through being emotionally aware.

Build a network of people you feel emotionally safe with and who have differing perspectives so that you can rely on them when you need advice on handling a situation.

You can draw people together. Polish your talents by taking a conflict-resolution course in an area such as nonverbal communication. The skills and knowledge you gain will combine with your talents to give you strength in handling conflicts.

Your sensitivity to sensing others' emotions is extremely well developed. This will mean that when in environments in which extreme negative emotion exists, this will place an enormous burden on you emotionally - the greater the balance required, the more it will cost you. In your search for peace it is easy for you to relinquish your position on something for the sake of harmony. Your tendency to avoid dealing with an issue when you feel you cannot balance the emotional demands of the situation, can easily lead you to landing up in an even worse situation. The balancing of your own emotions is equally important. If you leave your own emotions unchecked and building up, you may experience moments in which you 'crack', which will distress you even more.

Watch out for: Being agreeable when in fact you are not in agreement.

When is negative emotion to be tolerated or even accepted?